Every marriage has challenges. Every marriage has difficulties because marriage is comprised of two people of very different personalities, very different giftings. Two people that are independent and they decide to come together and be married for the rest of their life. Well this can cause conflict because you understand that even where you live, neighbors don’t always get along. People in business don’t always get along.
But there are some things that you can do where you can understand how to eliminate most of the problems.
When I got married to my wife I literally felt I was dreaming because I had gotten the wife I had always dreamed. Beautiful, intelligent and down to earth. But I had baggage… I had a past and ideas not ready to spoil the fantasy so I kept a lot of my past to myself. I acted alone on many things and I was not 100% honest with her. This caused countless problems and disagreements and trust was breached . I had to put things out in the open to my wife as uncomfortable as it was and we now started working together to move the Marriage forward. This breach of trust has been so difficult to get back to normal but with God there has been healing and restoration. When we are in marriage and we’re acting independently all the time, we’re just living life on our own. Realize this, that your marriage is a team relationship. My wife and I often times say, that we’re a team. We are in agreement. Although we disagree on something, we’re going to come together and we’re going to operate as a team. We’re not going to be against each other. We’re going to work together.
Dishonesty too can really cause problems in marriage. Marriage is based on truth. We tell each other the truth. We don’t have affairs. We don’t lie to the other person. We’re not dishonest about what we do, where we go. You see God wants you to have a relationship in marriage where you trust this person. You tell them the truth. They do the same to you. You believe in each other. When you do these very easy things, you know what God will do? He’ll bless your marriage in ways that you would never expect. Trust Him to help you. Do the right thing and remember what I said. Success leaves clues and so does failure. There are some very good reasons why some marriages make it and some don’t.
So one of the things I try to do in my life is follow successful clues. One of the greatest clues that you can understand in life is reading the Bible that’s about success. If you do this you will succeed. If you don’t do that you’ll fail. So I read the Bible all the time. One of its verses in the book of Proverbs chapter 16, verse 3 it says bring all your requests to the Lord give them to Him and he will make you succeed. So you can do successful things
Proverbs – “The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.”
Will & Ceci Chaniwa – Twitter @matrimonyfn